In my previous post, I discussed aspiration-driven and
fear-driven behaviors, emphasizing the importance of staying focused on your
aspirations to drive personal growth and fulfillment. I hope you found this
concept meaningful, as it has the potential to significantly transform your
life for the better.
Additionally, some years ago, I wrote about my encouragement
for you to avoid being controlled by "shoulds" in an article titled
"So Many Shoulds and Shouldn'ts" (you can read it here). I want to
emphasize that "shoulds" are inherently fear-driven, albeit often in
a subtle form, and their influence on your life can be dramatically reduced
once you gain a clearer understanding of them and refrain from overusing this
expression.
Why are "shoulds" fear-driven? Because they often
imply phrases like "I should do [ ] to avoid trouble" or "I
shouldn't do [ ] because my father said so." These statements are rooted
in fear. By revisiting my article on "shoulds," you'll come to
understand that there aren't as many things in life that we genuinely
"should" or "should not" do as we might think. Increasing
awareness in your daily life and reevaluating or rephrasing your "shoulds"
can invite more joy and aspiration into your life.