Thursday, June 22, 2017

When we are desperately wanting something…

It is quite interesting and may sound somewhat superficial, but I think there is some truth to it, and I would like you all think about it today: When we are desperately wanting something, we really need to slow down and take stock.

This “want” can be about anything. It is often a strong desire to have someone, such as boyfriend or girlfriend, it can be some job or a promotion, or it can be more materialistic things, such as cars, toys, or collectible items. In any case, when we are really desperate for something, it seems like we often don’t get  what we desire for some reason. Either we end up with something less satisfactory, or we get so worked up, frustrated, and anxious that we lose our well-being.

I want to share something personal with you today. After losing the little tiny fury family member last year that I wrote about previously, there was a long period of bereavement for me. As I wrote my previous post, however, I allowed or almost forced myself not to run away from my emotional experience, and eventually, the pain was healed. Then what? Get ready for another fury family member!

Wow, I had no idea that rescuing a dog could be so stressful… Different facilities have different requirements and rules, and the requirement to actually be physically present for an adoption is not always possible because of work and distance. I finally found one I wanted to adopt, but then it didn’t work out… Then we tried for another…, etc. etc…. It really got to me. I became desperate, emotionally worked up, and frustrated and anxious. One day I realized something was NOT OKAY with me.

I got some invaluable support from a close and wise friend, and I realized that I needed to let it go. I let my control go and let the universe handle it, while maintaining a strong belief that it would eventually work out. It was such a huge relief! Even though I knew that such a state of desperation would not be helpful in general, nonetheless it sometimes creeps up on us in a sneaky way without us even noticing it at first.

Life is so interesting. I came to this realization in one brief morning after I asked my friend for help. In the evening on the same day, Mr. Max joined my family. What luck, what a weird scenario, how strange… Yes, I do understand that some people may say that this is just unscientific and superficial, but I think there is something in this that we can take seriously since so many people have had this kind of experience, don’t you think?

When we are desperately wanting something, we really need to slow down and stay calm. Let it be, and allow things to happen to come to you.